Friday, May 04, 2007

Whatever

So much for my promise of Tuesday updates. That’s partly because I barely even lost one freaking pound. Eight miles, people, I walked for EIGHT MILES. *Sigh* Whatever. Don’t try to cheer me up with “at least you didn’t gain”. I am running out of time here folks, summer is fast approaching. I don’t know what the problem is, you would think I eat chocolate cake three times a day. It’s the portion control that kills me I think. I am SO calling Jenny. Did you see that V@lerie Bertine11i lost 10 pounds already?? I’m going to keep trying though, I’m not giving up. I’m just PISSED.

The other part is that I am just too damn busy. Work is insane and free time is spent with the boy. It is so hard to keep blogging. Part of me thinks I should just shut this blog down and move on with life, but I’m not 100% ready to do that yet. I read things in blogland and get myself all riled up and start formulating a post in my head and then days go by before I actually have a chance to respond. When I do get the chance, everything that has been said on the matter has been said. So you’ll just have to trust me when I say I had definite opinions on Imus, V-Tech, A little pregnant and Chew. But it’s all done and gone now and please tell me why bloggers have to get so uppity with each other? Anyway, I digress.

Oh and just so you know, I can’t view blog pictures at work, and some days I can’t even leave a comment. So I mark your blog to read later, and then later turns into 4 days, and you’ve posted 6 more times since then and it’s difficult to catch up. So I’m still reading all of your blogs, trust me. I just can’t comment as often as I’d like. Sorry about that.

Anway, did I mention that we had our first post placement visit a couple of weeks ago? It was totally fine. The woman was only there for about 45 minutes and she asked us some basic questions. I guess I should include them here in case anyone is interested…

How is his health?
What is his current height and weight?
What is his doctor’s name and where are they located?
When was his first doctor’s appointment when you got home?
Can I see the summary of visits and immunizations so far?
What formula is he on?
What is his feeding schedule like?
What is his personality like?
Does he have any developmental delays?
Do you think you have bonded with him?
Do you think he has bonded to you?
What kinds of activities do you do with him?
Who is close by in case of emergency?
How has he changed your life?
How has he affected your relationship as a married couple?
Are you feeling more stressed having a baby to take care of?
Do you need information on resources to help you?
How has your family reacted to him?
May I see his room?

I think that was all the major questions. Let me know if you want to know how we answered any of them. Seamonkey sat quietly in his high chair with some toys the whole time. He was unnaturally quiet and serious, but it seems that she thought it was the appropriate level of stranger anxiety. It was all very pleasant and quick – we had some general conversation about adoption and Colombia and she was on her merry way. We didn’t go crazy cleaning the house or doing any preparation for her visit. We have at least one more visit I think. She suggests that we readopt him here in the US – we don’t have to do that but she thought it wouldn’t hurt. So I need to get information on that. I also have to get him a US birth certificate – no clue how to do that either.

Other than that, things are fine. Seamonkey is doing well – still not quite crawling yet. He’s been very fussy the last few days, and I think maybe he might finally be teething? I don’t know, it seems like we say that every week and still no teeth. This weekend we plan to do some house stuff – planting flowers (impatients Elle, not petunias) and we’re re-doing all the closets in the house. Our current set up is impractical, and I finally convinced BT that he can no longer use seamonkey’s closet. We need the storage room. Especially since I can’t control myself with all the cute summer clothes for the boy. Someone needs to put a limit on the number of bucket hats I can buy this kid. And just for the record….boy clothes selection sucks. If you can wade through all the tulle and flowery fabric to even find the boy’s section – all you’ll find is cargo pants and shirts with bugs on them. Really now.

So I have to start planning the Christening (Julia I have a date but still confirming the time). It’s about time I got my butt in gear. The godparents are going to be my SIL and my brother. I wasn’t thrilled about having my SIL, but I guess I can’t complain because my brother is no Holy Roller himself. My SIL isn’t a practicing Catholic anymore…she attends a Methodist? Lutheran? (not sure) church since she married her latest husband. Technically she can’t be a Godmother, she has to be a Christian Witness (only one Godparent has to be a practicing Catholic – although I realize using the word “practicing” with my brother may not be entirely appropriate). She does have the paperwork indicating she had all her catholic sacraments. I have a feeling that everyone is kind of doing a don’t ask don’t tell thing with our church (BT is handling the paperwork), which if you ask me, is wrong. Trust me, I am well aware of all the nonsense that goes on with the Catholic Church. But I still believe you shouldn’t lie. And I don’t want my son to be part of any kind of lying to the church thank you very much. But what am I supposed to do? At least she does go to church and my brother doesn’t really, so I guess it’s fair. Whatever. It still irks me. Nobody said I was rational.

Because they already all get on my nerves. They love seamonkey to death, they really do. And I am happy that he makes them so happy, and that everyone makes a fuss over him. It is so wonderful that the woman who said “I just wouldn’t have kids” is now the best Grandmother in the world. Even my SIL buys him tons of presents. But every time I go there I get a ginormous headache. They baby talk to him all day long. I LOVE YOU! SEAMONKEEEEEY! HEEEEY! I LOVE YOU! Yelled across the entire table in that singsongy voice OVER and OVER so that you just want to stab yourself in the eye with your fork. So between the yelling, and the baby talk, and the pressure of my tongue on the roof of my mouth to keep me quiet…by the time I leave I need four Advil and a shot of Grey Goose. Tell me it’s normal to feel this way. Tell me that just because I have finally been given a child, that I don’t have to be so over grateful that I can’t bitch about this stuff once in a while.

Oh and last thing – HURRAY FOR MARGARET!!! Finally Finally FINALLY she is going to be a mom!! So incredibly happy for you!!!

11 comments:

Beagle said...

We haven't even told my one SIL that we've been trying, or now, adopting. We like her that much. (She'd be the type to ask in an annoying way for weekly updates even if we tell her it could take two years!)

I think it's normal. Afterall, you choose your friends but your relatives are just kind of potluck!

Thanks for sharing the PP visit questions. Nothing too scary then . . .

MMrussianadoption said...

So I take it your SIL doesn't read this blog? lol.

Bezzie said...

Splah, yeah I'm guilty of getting all blog uppity today. Once I'm back into a nice office with a dose of the politics that go with it I'm sure I'll get over it.

I think my favorite question is: How did he change your life? How on EARTH do you answer that one succinctly??? I'd still be talking!

And no, that annoying baby talk crappola you are completely entitled to be annoyed by. It doesn't matter if you gave birth to him, adopted him, or he fell out of the sky. That's ANNOYING no matter how you cut it ;-).

Jenny and Matt said...

Mom's are permitted to be annoyed. Doubly or triply so when it concerns your kid.
I had a little bit of a tough time choosing Godparents, too. How about Guardians... have you done that? I've been mulling it over for A YEAR and still can't make a comfortable decision. We must live forever.

Elle said...

my mother baby talks. How on earth do you tell your mother to stop it. I mean honestly.

And that whole Catholic thing. I'll never get that. There's this whole thing in the Russian adoption community where the people get all in a twitter because some of the kids are baptized in the Orthodox church. It freaks the Catholics the hell out. They don't know what to do. We're Lutheran. We just did what is called an affirmation of baptism. And the godparent thing. We call them Sponsors. I call them Godparents... same thing.

Jennifer said...

You have to re-adopt him to get the birth certificate. We just did it today. So get on that. It is a pain and in our state you have to have your post placements completed, but I am sure your state is different. But it wasn't too bad.

I feel exactly the same about the kids christening tomorrow. MY BIL and SIL are the GP's to Mimi and well, they aren't even going to meet her until tomorrow!!! F-ers. I mean hello! fly in earlier. And they had to get some bs letters that the priest said he would accept because well...I am sure he gets this, they were catholic at one time bs all the time.

OK..enough moaning. my only advice on diet. don't eat 2 hours pre-bed. It worked for me. OH..and I am up in your neck in june for maybe 2 weeks now...will keep you posted.

Jenni said...

Sorry about the diet thing. I was doing cardio every day for about 2 weeks, and really tried to eat well. Then, how was I rewarded for all that hard work??? My pants became TIGHTER! It was so completely irritating! So, I feel your pain.

Family can be strange sometimes. It's a good thing your SIL doesn't read the blog. I have some very choice words to post about my demon-SIL, but that would be the one day she checked my blog, and then all hell would break loose!

Best of luck with the baptism. And YAY for a successful post-placement visit!

mama k said...

sounds like you've been BUSY!
Yeah, I have to censor myself from complaining about family members for fear they would read my Blog. But yeah, I just think it's the nature of family to have a few individual that piss you off regularly.

PS I hear you on the boys selection! I actually prefer the bugs over all the construction-fireman-trucks-sports-sports-sports

Rachael said...

I was looking forward to your Tuesday update...you were supposed to motivate me. I didn't do so hot either. Made it to the gym way more than usual, but then made up for it with bad eating. Must do better this week. My sis is getting married and the dresses just arrived...they looked ALOT cuter when we tried them on 4 months ago right after our Jamaica vacation than they do now....must have been the tan.

Also, I hope you don't throw in the towel and quit blogging. Just remember how therapeutic the blog rant can be. Sometimes I wish I'd been smarter about who I gave my blog info. to -- it kind of reigns in the blog rant sometimes, unfortunately.

Mami Yaya said...

You are too funny. I hear on the lack of selection of boy clothes. Sucks.
Picking Godparents is hard. We had our baby's christening three weeks after coming home. We didn't do anything fancy and so glad it is done. We are very happy with the selection of gps, though :-)
I'm glad you found my blog. I'm not even close to updating and people keep asking for picks. Sorry.
Keep it up with the diet. I will tell you that at least you are trying. I'm just at the feeling guilty part, for not doing anything.

Miss Scarlett said...

It is hard to find nice clothes for little boys - I find it is covered in trucks and diggers. What?? Not every item a child wears needs to be so solidly identified as 'boy'. What about some normal jeans and a shirt?
Anyways - how are you doing with your 10lb goal?
The walk sounds fantastic- and SeaMonkey must really love that boardwalk. Most little people do love being out and seeing so much.
Good for you for not going out of your way for the interview - it doesn't make a lot of sense - better to be real, I think.